Worst Comment of 2009 – “Disgusting Display of Opinion…” WTF?!?

On AskDanAndJennifer.com and the “Ask Dan and Jennifer Show” we talk openly about many subjects that have strong emotional connections for many people.

Discussions around the circumcision of infant boys can get especially heated!

The comment below was especially strong, and negative! This woman goes on and on to tell us how understanding she is, asking us to be nice in our comments, while the whole time attacking us, our life experience, and our opinions.

Feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts, links, studies, etc. on this highly controversial topic – but please keep it more objective and positive than this woman.

Voice your opinions, without attacking the opinions of others.
Play nice.
Treat others with the same respect that you wish to receive.

Just to be clear on this topic – we have personal, first hand knowledge of both circumcised and uncircumcised men. We intentionally did not get into medical discussions around the necessity for circumcision because there are literally 100’s of studies pointing in either direction. In today’s day and time there is no clear answer as to whether or not it’s medically necessary to circumcise infant boys.

Upon check in at the hospital, it’s an elective choice that you are given before the birth of your male child. They ask what you want – it is not medically required.

Our stance on circumcision has not changed. It is an elective and purely cosmetic surgery in most cases. The decision to have such a surgery should be made by an adult, not forced upon a child who is unable to express his opinions and wishes.

Here’s the original video that sparked the incredibly irate comment below:

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Dan and Jennifer,
Typically I do not get involved in public affairs regarding politics, marriage and other topics such as the one discussed in this video, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDXXkBOGBiA&feature=related . I try to remind myself that each person is entitled to their own opinions, and thoughts. I believe that everyone should be permitted to make their mind up about what they feel is right or wrong. However, it is when people articulate their opinions in such a sarcastic and ignorant way that I get irritated. So in response to your video that I came across, which absolutely disgusted me, I pose a few questions to the two of you. I am curious first and foremost Jennifer if you have ever slept with a man who was uncircumcised? I am assuming you have not considering your one sided OPINION that you expressed via you tube. I am wondering if you have any children. Dan, are you circumcised or uncircumcised, I am asking because it is apparent to me that the two of you have no clue what you a re talking about! This in return, has spawned me to want to inform the two of you on how dense and ignorant you sound.
I am a very understanding being; I do believe that people have the right to express themselves, but if you are going to do it, it should be done in a manner that supports what you are saying through evidence. You stated, “You do your research…” however, you present no proof to support these claims. I am not quite sure if your statements, or opinions if you will, aggravate me more than the manner you went about it. I hope the two of you are not college grads, because if you are then you should know better than this, and should be ashamed of yourselves! If this was a paper or worth a grade you would both fail miserably. It is clear the two of you are passionate about this subject but you need to choice a healthier stance. This video deeply offended me (and to be frank it pisses me off). Your video is unreliable, misleading and pushes your beliefs onto others. IT IS SICKENING.
I asked you both a couple questions in the beginning of this letter for you to reflect upon as you read the paragraph below. It is what I wrote in response to a terrible video I seen moments before I was lead to your disgusting display of opinion.
“Wow, I had no clue there was such a heated debate over circumcisions. I came across this site as I was looking up info regarding the pre-op and post-op care. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. He is uncircumcised and the first man I have dated that has been uncircumcised. Yes it was different to me at first but I did not mind because I loved him. (We waited to have sex, until we had been together for some time.) I knew he was uncircumcised, as he had told me but had no idea what it would be like. The first time we had sex, to current, when the skin is pulled back there is a terrible smell; it is so bad that I have almost thrown up, and yes we have been to the doctors. There is nothing wrong with him. I did and still do try to look past it, because I love him. However, it has taken a toll on our sex lives. It has gotten so bad that I don’t want him to touch me with it anywhere, because I don’t want that smell on me. It is not that I am trying to be mean to him obviously, but it really is the worst smelling thing I have ever smelt. I don’t even want to have sex anymore it is that bad. The thought makes me so sick that in order for something to happen he has to shower, I have to shower, and then I shower afterwards just to make sure I don’t have the smell on me.
I understand that some many think-‘well it wasn’t that bad if you stayed with him’ but again we waited and I was in love with him, so I was not going to walk away from this wonderful man because of this; however, we are having sex about two times a month now, and I know as we are both young adults that our relationship cannot survive the rest of our lives only having sex two times a month. So we have decided to get him circumcised, so our sex life can return to (what for us is) normal. He is having surgery in two days, and I have started to question if he should really do this or not. (Not because I can deal with the situation, I am just concerned about his well-being). Thus I started to do some more research, which in return led me to this site.
I want to make clear to everyone who is reading this first and foremost; this is not a debate for or against circumcision. I am not trying to offend anyone who may be uncircumcised. I am only sharing my experience. So I do apologize if this offends anyone as it is not my intention. I believe that everyone should be able to make their own decisions, and if that means letting your child make that call then so be it.
However, I do not believe that parents should be condemned for making this call. We have a 2 year old, and when I was pregnant the plan was to have him circumcised. My boyfriend and I came to this decision together as we did not want him to share the same experience as we have. We did our research, and although we concluded being uncircumcised was more beneficial than not, we decided to have him circumcised when he was born so he would not endure the pain of circumcision if he decided he did not want it later in life. When they came to get him I cried and changed my mind, as I did not want him to go through with it at such a young age, but his father was persistent on sticking with the plan and we had it done. My point is we made a decision that we thought would be best for him. I hope that when the time comes and he does become sexually active that he makes the right decisions, and uses protection. I also hope that when he is older that he understands we made this decision t o safe him the pain of the operation later in life. We love him and only want the best for him. (After reading this site, I feel as if were damned if we do or damned if we don’t; only time will tell).
Like I said this is not meant as a debate or to offend anyone. I would be interested in hearing thoughts or even constructive criticism, but no rude or hateful remarks as I see below. I think it is uncalled for; we are adults. For anyone who is thinking about writing anything nasty in response, even though I have stated several times this is not to offend anyone I would like to say, when I had our son I went without drugs. I was in labor for 26 hours. They cut me with a scalpel from V. to A. I had the worst degree cut they can do, and yes it was the most painful thing I have ever endured. Quite frankly it sucked. I went from 100 pounds to 185 (day of delivery) back down to a hundred pounds. The body dramatically changes during pregnancy, and so after I had our son I had my breast done; to make my boyfriend happy. I only share this to give a clue on the circumstances.
I am wondering if anyone who reads this has encountered the same problem as my boyfriend and I have. Are there any other options rather than surgery? Any yes he showers daily, and he also cleans properly. I have watched him. Even when he washes it there is still a slight odor, which is still strong but not nearly as bad as when he got into the shower. “
FOR YOUR INFORMATION DAN, MY BOYFRIEND DOES SHOWER, DAILY. ALSO IN CASE YOU ‘NEED TO KNOW’, HE HAS ONLY HAD SEX 5 TIMES IN HIS LIFE. YES 5, NOT 5 WOMEN, 5 TIMES. SO THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HIM. I HAVE EVEN WASHED IT FOR HIM. IT STILL SMELLS AND HE CANNOT HELP THAT. UNFORTINATLY IT IS THE IGNORANCE OF THE POPULACE LIKE YOU WHO DO NOT RECONGNIZE THE TRUE MOTIVATION TO OPT FOR THE SURGERY. I HAD MY SON CIRCUMCISED SO HE WOULDN’T HAVE TO FACE A SURGERY LATER IN LIFE, YOU MORON; NOT TO HURT HIM.
Think about this for a second Dan and Jennifer. Would you rather have that surgery done when you won’t remember it, or would you two prefer to have it done when you will recall the pain? Hard decision isn’t it. You have to be some of the most incredibly irresponsible, close-minded, rude people I have ever wasted five minutes of my time listening to! I pray for the nations’ youth; that they do not come across your ridicules display of opinion, and let your garbage fill their minds. Educate yourselves before opening your mouths; leaking your crap into public. I demand you take this video down! It is rude, and offensive! If I do not see that it has been taken down today, I will be forced to take legal action.
S.M.D